Every once in a while, a fellow Twitter follower will reach out and ask me to share their story with you. Sometimes I feel it’s appropriate, but most times I don’t because this isn’t a sexcapades type of blog.
You come here to get information and to learn, not to be titillated with stories of people’s wild sex days and nights. If you wanted that, there are a MILLION other places on the internet to do that. I highly encourage you to go where your heart pleases, but remember that I’m here to educate, first and foremost.
But today, I wanted to share the story from The Apprehensive Vagina Blog from @BloggerElphieW (Twitter). Granted, I’m a few months late, but this has also been the craziest spring semester (and I’m not even a student…geez!) so I’m trying to catch up.
Most of the time, I talk about healthy sex and assume that all your working parts are, well, working. That’s not always the case for people, and I want to give them a voice, particularly when they don’t have many platforms from which to share their voice.
This blog is about a female with vaginismus, and like many others before and probably after, it’s not only physically painful, but mentally and emotionally draining for the female, and highly misdiagnosed by the medical community. And that’s for a number of reasons, like vagueness of symptoms, different presentations of pain, and sometimes because the patient can’t find the vocabulary or is too embarrassed to describe the source of their pain.
Sex can already be a very difficult thing to bring up with a medical provider, but if you’re experiencing intense pain during sex, you may feel so abnormal and shamed, you don’t know where to turn to. That’s where @BloggerElphieW comes in.
Vaginismus is a condition where there is involuntary tightness of the vagina during attempted intercourse. The tightness is actually caused by involuntary contractions of the pelvic floor muscles surrounding the vagina. The woman does not directly control or ‘will’ the tightness to occur; it is an involuntary pelvic response. She may not even have any awareness that the muscle response is causing the tightness or penetration problem. - from Vaginismus.com
Check out her story here and send it out far and wide. Sex is a tough subject to tackle, and it gets harder when you have a medical condition. You shouldn’t be ignored because of that. You should be supported.
I support you, Apprehensive Vagina, I support you.
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